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With the mid-term elections taking place today in the United States, for those who live here (or observing from afar), many may feel the country is divided or fractured. Although it may look broken to some at the moment, I know one day in the future we will have realized we had the power to “peace” it back together.

In fact, it will turn out we were mistaken in the first place, as we remembered that nothing is ever really broken.

We’ll see the exercise was good for us as we had to find our way through the heart space – after exhausting all other means and resources – to find that when we landed in a peaceful space and took a peaceful approach to seeing how all the parts fit together, it all worked out.

Once we got past our personal need to be right and to stand our ground, make our point and “be heard,” we actually felt the possibility that there was benefit in all of it.

And once we remembered that we were eternal beings and were missing nothing and we relaxed a bit, we saw that the “peaces” were perfectly nudging us toward seeing our wholeness.

But it was all time well spent.

In fact if we hadn’t taken the long way around, we might never have Peaced it all together in the end.

…(but then again we might have). 🙂

And by the way, there is no End! Just a fabulous unfolding of the awakening to the Truth that all is Well and always has been … Peace.

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By Dr. Sue Morter

There are more than seven billion people living on this planet which means more than seven billion personalities, opinions and ways of seeing the world. With so many diverse and varying ideologies and socio-cultural milieus, someone is bound to act in a way, or say something that upsets another.

The question is: Do we always have to take everything so personally? If not, how do we make what seems personal, impersonal?

Ego: Why We Take Things Personally
From the time we are young, usually before we’re even ten years old, situations or moments in life occur where we feel unsafe or insecure, or someone says something that makes us feel unlovable. When this happens, we begin to develop a second self, or a false self. That false self is often the “ego,” which I like to call the “protective personality” because no one likes to have an ego, but people don’t seem to mind having a “protective personality.”

At that early stage in life, our protective personality represents our best effort to deal with situations and emotions that are unfamiliar to us. In these situations, we experience ourselves from a sense of lack, because the ego, or the protective personality, is based upon the feeling that our authentic self isn’t enough. We feel we have to create another version of who we are in this world to be okay, accepted and loved.

The problem is, this rational is based in fear.

The “protective personality” is based in fear because we established it in moments we didn’t feel safe. As we live from this place of not feeling safe, we have a tendency to be hyper-vigilant. We look around constantly to see, “Am I okay? Am I safe? Is this okay? Am I doing the right thing?”

Because we’re based in fear we’re hyper-vigilantly looking to see if we can be safe and relax, which causes us to constantly check with everyone to see if they’re okay too – our parents, grandparents, and even teachers, who have a huge influence on us in these early stages of our development. We ask, “Are you okay? Because if you’re not okay, you might make me not okay.” And then we think if the other person isn’t ok, then we can’t relax either.

When this happens, we have a tendency to take things personally because we’re standing in a place of fear and we begin projecting those fears onto other people. We have a feeling that what they’re doing is having a direct influence on us, and our entire reality becomes oriented around our sense of safety.

For example: If someone you know is being quiet. They may be peacefully quiet and contemplative about any number of beautiful things. But for someone near to them observing the silence, they may take that silence personally and begin to act as if what they’re afraid of is true. They’re afraid that if the other isn’t okay, then they are not ok and soon, they begin to act as if they’re not okay either.

They begin creating a reality based upon their fear. They start getting short, or maybe develop a sense of aloofness or detachment, or some kind of lack of love, simply out of protection all because that person is taking personally something that which wasn’t even personal to begin with. The real reality is, maybe the person was quiet because they were thinking about a secret vacation to plan for the other. But because the person didn’t know, they took the silence personally and because our circuitry is built on fear, we fill in the blanks with information containing a negative, protecting type of story. When we live in the world of story, filling in blanks with the information that we don’t actually know, we’re taking it personally.

A Simple Story
There is a story about a young man who wanted to go fishing with his father. His older brothers were always invited to go fishing with his father, and he was never asked to go. Finally, when he was old enough and his father invited him to go, they planned to get up the very next morning to go to this special fishing spot. But when the little boy woke up the next morning, his father and his two brothers were already gone.

He took it personally. He realized it meant his father and brothers must think he wasn’t capable, that he wasn’t old enough, smart enough or good enough. He even thought maybe he wasn’t loved enough to be able to go on this fishing journey with his father and brothers.

What actually happened was – they forgot. They had gone through their rituals so many times, walking through the regular process of packing up the gear and getting in the car and they had simple forgot. The little boy went through all of these gyrations of all the possible explanations, and all that actually happened was, they forgot.

This is what we do. All that actually happens in our life, is something as simple as an oversight and we write an entire story underneath of it that causes us to take something personally that was never intended to be personal in the first place.

Defense Physiology
Each time this happens, it causes us to move into defense physiology which eventually exhausts our adrenal glands. It can create all kinds of hormonal imbalances, chemical imbalances, digestive imbalances leading to allergies, and asthma, and all kinds of chain reactions that come from writing stories because we’re taking things personal, when we really don’t need to be.

So, the invitation is to come fully present to what actually is happening in the moment. You can ask yourself, “How often am I writing the story about what was meant behind what they did?

If you’re filling in the blanks and taking it personally, you’re writing a story that is likely putting you into a defense/protective/survival physiology, which can inhibit us from our natural ability to self-heal. Our whole life starts to go down an entirely different road, simply because we’re acting and reacting from this “protective personality” and taking things personally.

When to Take Things Personally
On the other side of the coin, we tend never to take things personally we think are far too grand to include us. We think success is meant for someone else, that joy is meant for other couples. We think that position at work will probably go to the person who’s been there longer, even though we might be more talented in some way. We don’t allow ourselves to step personally into the ideas that are grand and magnificent, so we leave ourselves out of the things that we hold as impersonal.

These are the types of things we should take more personally and allow ourselves to be included. And the things that we tend to take personally, we need to allow them to be less personal and more objective.

If we could shift these two realities just a little, we would start to see a vibrational match to where we’re really intended to be living in life. Opportunities would start to open up and joy would start to be experienced. Intimacy can return to our relationships because we’re no longer holding ourselves at bay from the things that we think we need to protect ourselves from because we were projecting and taking something personally.

Tips for Not Taking it Personally
There’s a simple exercise we can do to stop coming from the protective personality, stop taking things personally and stop projecting our fears onto others.

Just by coming back home to ourselves physically, we call our energy back onto the core of our being, and bring our conscious attention back into our central channel. The moment that we feel ourselves being defensive, or we feel edgy or agitated or a little off in a situation, we can immediately do the work of coming into the core, breathing into the belly, squeezing the heart so we can feel ourselves oriented in this central channel again, and allow the orientation of our energy to come again from this deep centered area.

It is grounded, it is connected and we can more easily peel this protected personality off of us and see it for what it is in that moment. We can instead come from the Essential, soulful and authentic self in a manner that allows us to remember that love is here for us. Love is always present. We’re never disconnected from it as long as we are anchored in our deep core.

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By Dr. Sue Morter

We all feel sad, lonely or depressed from time to time in our lives. Whether it’s the loss of a loved one or a disappointment we’re facing, feeling a heaviness at life for a period of time is natural. When that heaviness and lack of energy becomes our constant state of living however, we may be experiencing a more serious form of depression.

If you feel this constant state of depression in your life, you are not alone. In fact, Major depressive disorder affects approximately 14.8 million American adults. (Archives of General Psychiatry, 2005 Jun; 62(6): 617-27).

When you look at depression through the lens of Energy Medicine, there are many techniques you can use to help alleviate the symptoms of depression and regain a sense of vitality and joy in your life once again.

 

Depression is Stuck Energy

Quantum science teaches that everything in all of creation is energy – including you.  In it’s natural, unobstructed state, energy is meant to be constantly moving, especially inside the human system. However, we as humans, have the ability to shut down that energy flow when we worry, get angry or experience other undesired emotions.

Chronic depression results when we aren’t able to process an emotional experience completely.  When the energy behind those emotions isn’t metabolized, it becomes heavy, or dense, in the energy field. When this happens, the energy field becomes compressed and, in regards to the human condition, on an emotional level, it feels like what we call depression.

It’s important to recognize that when we feel this compressed, heavy, depressed kind of feeling, it isn’t because there’s something wrong with us; it simply represents the fact we haven’t completely metabolized some emotional experience we’ve encountered.

To remedy this feeling of heavy, unprocessed energy, we have to learn to go back and be present for ourselves in a way that we were unable to be present when the situation originally occurred.

 

Processing Unresolved Emotions

One of the ways that we can begin to process unresolved emotions is to take our attention inside the body and ask ourselves the following question:

“When I think about how I’m feeling right now, where in my body do I feel the heaviest? Where do I feel that there’s a gap in the energy flow in my body?”

If you don’t know how to feel the energy flow in our body, simply ask, “Where in my body is the energy any different than it is in the rest of my body?” The mind will go to where it needs to go, and from there, our task is to bring our loving attention into that place in the body where the mind has landed.

As we focus on the particular area in our body and bring a breath of loving presence to it, we begin to feel held. We start to feel a sense of self, or a sense of wellbeing, that was never associated with this emotional situation before.

Once we start to experience this feeling of wellbeing, our next step is to breathe up and down through the system of the body. This begins to move the stuck energy, and results in a sense of flow again. When that flow returns to the energy system, the energy field begins to once again become robust. As this happens, we start to feel lighter, more available, present and clear.  Our state of depression begins to shift and we feel ourselves getting better because we’re more functional.

 

It’s as Easy as Moving Energy

So, you may be wondering if all you have to do when you’re depressed is take your attention to the core of the body and find a knot in your stomach or heaviness in your heart, and squeeze it as you start to breathe, and you’re going to be well?

There’s a little more to it than that, but the most important thing to understand is that breathing sets the energy in motion again and causes it to begin moving through our system. As that energy is set into motion, we start to have a vital force flowing through the body.

I teach techniques in The Energy Codes® coursework that allow individuals to align their breath with the central channel of their body, which causes the energy to pick up a powerfully-focused momentum through the system.  It has a unique impact in the body and is very different than just taking a deep breath and hoping you feel better in a moment.

There are many other techniques along these lines we can do to start to raise the vibrational frequency of the body.

 

Techniques for Raising Your Vibration

Depression is simply compressed energy, so anything that we can do to raise that energy and expand it out again is going to be a good modality in an integrative sense to move ourselves into a new state in life.

There are many types of activity we can do to help raise our vibration:

  • We can get our bodies in motion by exercising, which results in the release of endorphins that help us feel better immediately. Breathing up and down the central channel of our body while we’re exercising is even better.
  • Eating an alkalizing diet helps immensely. This means eating lots of fruits and vegetables, as close to nature as possible, will raise the vibrational frequency of the body and create an uplifting feeling.
  • If we can start to do all of these things at the same time (exercising, breathing through the central channel and eating an alkalizing diet) there will be a collaborative effect on the body that picks up the momentum faster than anything else we could do.

The body has the capacity to heal and to be thriving and vital and highly creative.  If we’re not experiencing that or if we’re suffering feelings of depression, there’s a reason and also a solution. We must begin by putting all of the above techniques together at the same time.

In that moment, time is on our side, and life is on our side. We’re supposed to be whole and healthy and vital and life is about flowing energy. Anything that we can do to get the energy flowing in our system again allows us to feel more alive, vital, and more capable of managing and developing the life of our dreams.