The Art of Creating Real Connections

In a world increasingly driven by digital interactions, the concept of creating genuine connections often feels elusive. 

We live in a time where likes, shares, and comments can be mistaken for meaningful engagement, yet many of us still crave something deeper. Real connections—those authentic, heartfelt bonds with others—are more important now than ever. They are the foundation of our emotional well-being, personal growth, and even our success. 

Research by Holt-Lunstad and colleagues at Brigham Young University, which analyzed 148 studies, found that strong social connections with friends, family, neighbors, or colleagues can increase the likelihood of overall survival by 50%, regardless of the specific health conditions being addressed (Martino, Pegg, & Frates, 2015).

But how do we go beyond surface-level interactions to build these real connections?

The Value of Real Connections

1. Emotional Fulfillment
At the core of every human is the need for emotional support and understanding. Real connections provide a safe space where we can express our true selves without fear of judgment. This emotional bond can lead to increased happiness, reduced stress, and a sense of belonging. These connections often become a source of strength during challenging times, offering comfort and reassurance when we need it most.

2. Personal Growth
Meaningful connections challenge us to grow. When we engage deeply with others, we are exposed to new ideas, perspectives, and experiences. These interactions push us to think critically, question our assumptions, and expand our worldview. Whether it’s through a mentor, a close friend, or a supportive community, these connections encourage us to become the best version of ourselves.

3. Enhanced Well-being
Numerous studies have shown that strong social connections are linked to better physical health, including lower rates of anxiety, depression, and even a longer lifespan. Real connections provide the emotional nutrients that contribute to our overall well-being. They help us navigate life’s ups and downs, making us more resilient and capable of facing challenges.

4. Professional Success
In the professional world, connections are key to success. But it’s not just about networking for opportunities; it’s about building relationships based on trust, mutual respect, and shared values. These real connections can lead to collaborations, mentorships, and partnerships that are invaluable for career growth. When people know they can rely on you and you on them, the professional doors that open are more meaningful and long-lasting.

How to Create Real Connections

1. Be Present
One of the simplest yet most profound ways to create real connections is to be present. This means truly listening to others, giving them your full attention without distractions. In a world of constant notifications and multitasking, this can be challenging, but it’s essential. When people feel heard and valued, they are more likely to open up and reciprocate.

2. Show Genuine Interest
Ask questions, be curious, and take an interest in the lives of others. This goes beyond surface-level small talk; it’s about understanding what matters to them, their passions, fears, and dreams. When you show genuine interest, you build trust and deepen the connection.

3. Be Vulnerable
Authentic connections require vulnerability. This means being open about your own feelings, struggles, and experiences. When you allow yourself to be vulnerable, you invite others to do the same, creating a space for deeper, more meaningful interactions.

4. Invest Time and Effort
Real connections don’t happen overnight; they require time and effort. Regularly check in with people, whether it’s through a quick text, a phone call, or meeting up for coffee. Consistent, meaningful interactions build a strong foundation for lasting relationships.

5. Practice Empathy
Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. Practicing empathy helps you connect with others on a deeper level, as it shows that you not only care about their experiences but also that you understand them. Empathy builds trust, a critical component of any real connection.

In a society that often values speed and convenience over depth and authenticity, real connections are a powerful antidote. They remind us of our shared humanity and the importance of compassion, understanding, and mutual support. By investing in these relationships, we enrich our lives in countless ways, from emotional fulfillment to personal growth and professional success.

So, take a moment to disconnect from the noise and reconnect with what truly matters. Reach out to an old friend, listen intently to a colleague, or simply be present with a loved one. In doing so, you’ll not only improve your own life but also contribute to a world where real connections are valued and celebrated.*If you’re looking to connect with the amazing Morter Institute community – don’t miss the exciting upcoming in-person event at IGNITE!. Learn more here.

Sources: 

Martino, J., Pegg, J., & Frates, E. P. (2015). The connection prescription: Using the power of social interactions and the deep desire for connectedness to empower health and wellness. American Journal of Lifestyle Medicine, 11(6), 466–475. https://doi.org/10.1177/1559827615608788