The Holy Days, or the holidays, are a time that stirs our Soulful Evolution.
No matter what is unfolding around us, we’re drawn back into childhood memories or family dynamics from this pinnacle time in our lives. At the same moment, there is more light pouring onto Earth and infusing our consciousness at this time.
The reason these memories of our past are pinnacle moments is: proximity. They are close to you vibrationally, on the personality level, and oftentimes mark moments where you started to split off, “splat out,” and move into the protective personality. These memories or triggers take you right back to that moment when this occurred.
As we work with the energies that surface during this time, it’s an opportunity for us to enliven and awaken aspects of ourselves in a magical and magnificent way.
This means we’re at a perfect moment to explore the relationship between the Soulful or Essential Self and the protective personality, also known as the ego—the conscious and the subconscious.
Improving that inner relationship starts to dissolve the false self into the soulful presence that is the truth of who you are. The closer you get to the Central Channel, the more likely you are to access complete freedom.
Cultivating Relationships from the Inside Out
We are here to recognize and consciously cultivate a relationship between the area of the brain where we do our thinking and the area that holds access, at the subconscious level, to our eternal beingness. You are not only this third-dimensional separate self who is trying to survive this life or merely find peace of mind.
You are made of God-stuff and nature-stuff—you are that, too. Ironically, this time of the year opens a doorway to get to know that to a greater degree than any other time.
You have greater access to your Soulful Self because of the circumstances. We are a multidimensional being that chose to come here and have a life experience to refine itself. To maintain an awareness of its greatness, even while it’s here on earth.
Consciousness is expanding, and you, too, are playing a role in that. You’re walking right into the wobbly, relative world as the absolute, stabilizing presence of creation. We are here to discover how to maintain that stability—that presence on subject—as we walk into circumstances that we previously had looked to for stability.
We looked out “there” for the reassurance, the validation, and the love. While we looked out there for kudos, we created a lack of those sensations. Those sensations already exist inside of us, but our mind enhanced the circuits that believed they had to come to us from the outside.
How to Utilize Family Dynamics to Reveal our Magnificence
What we want to recognize is that the outer world is showing up right now as a little practice ground. Family dynamics and experiences during the holiday season provide us a way to get to know how well we’re doing with developing a better relationship “on the inside,” by exploring how we behave in the relationships “on the outside.”
As we navigate the holidays, notice when an interaction creates any amount of tension in your body. That tension is evidence that some part of your life, in general, not only in relationship to that family member, is suffering. The holidays are potent because they offer more contact with those in our biological ring, that innermost ring of your life.
When you stay present and allow yourself to feel the tension in your body in the middle of a family dynamic during the holidays, the closed areas from the innermost ring, the areas closest to your Central Channel, reveal. You get to “see” where sections of the trapdoor between the conscious and the subconscious are shut.
This is important because for us to drop into the Soulful Self and live from there requires we move through all grievances, all hesitations, all procrastinations, all denials. Through all the ways we sidestep or go around some aspect of our greatness.
I’m encouraging you, especially during this holiday season, to lean in. Allow yourself to live out loud, be vulnerable, be revealing, be honest. Don’t just see if you can get through the holidays and the end of the year. Chose to live out loud fully. Robustly go for it, because, if you play it safe, sidestep, and just squeeze through, you never have a sense of fulfillment.
The invitation is for us to live out loud. For you to live out love. Live it out—don’t just think about love. You don’t pontificate love. You don’t idealize love. You live into it.
“You live into it,” means you speak into the things that need to be spoken into. Not to teach anyone a lesson but to share that it hurts your heart if there’s distance between you. That you would love, even if you don’t know how, to have a better relationship. You’d love to connect more authentically or perhaps more often.
You do it by leading. You go first.
Recognize your greatness and let the world celebrate the fact that you have a handle on vulnerability. Because vulnerability is availability, and availability means connection.
Connection means wholeness, which is the life we are here to live.
As the protective personality reveals itself in a vulnerable, compassionate, and loving way, the entire cosmos steps up to celebrate. Because in that moment, we create less separation and more unity.
Remind yourself, in the heat of the moment, the most important thing in your life is that you develop a relationship between your protective personality and your Essential Self. So that you remain in alignment and speak with love and compassion into whatever is happening.
The holidays are the Holy Days. Nature is on your side, literally. The stars align so that the energy present on the earth is the most illuminated. It is of the highest frequency at this time of year. Which means our ability to stay in alignment is supported more than we realize.
I encourage you to ground even more often right now, because these core relationships, often about family, money, power, sexuality, or creativity spring forth from your second chakra. And our second chakra is profoundly enhanced when we are grounded and rooted at the first chakra.
So it’s an especially powerful time to practice Mula Bandha and remember to breath in the Central Channel. Not sure how to do that? Discover more in The Energy Codes: The 7-Step System to Awaken Your Spirit, Heal Your Body, and Live Your Best Life book.