Energy Codes Insights and Conversation

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Trusting Your Gut: How to Live from the Soulful Self Vs. Personality Self

By Dr. Sue Morter

Have you ever struggled to make a decision, your mind spinning constantly as it vacillates between options yet can never find a solution?  This confusion or lack of true knowing comes from the mind, or what I like to call the “Personality Self.”

On the other hand, have you ever had a “gut” feeling about a situation in your life? In a particular moment, you simply “knew” what to do without knowing why or how you knew it? This “knowing” is the wisdom that comes from the True you, or your Soulful Self.

Both the Soulful Self and the Protective Self exist, yet only one contains the truth of who we are and what we’re meant to do in our life. Our task is to learn to live from the Soulful Self, and have constant access to that deep wisdom within guiding our lives in the direction we’re meant to go. To do this, we have to start listening to the messages of our body.

Our Soulful Self speaks to us through our body and to learn how to hear the messages it sends, our mind, or Protective Self, needs to learn how to trust the body because the body doesn’t lie. It is constantly revealing truths to us, yet the mind can’t perceive these messages because it’s so distracted keeping itself busy with questions of what we should do next.

The minute we can bring the mind’s attention onto the body, the mind can begin to filter information more accurately. Once we do, we have access to deep wisdom and we begin to cultivate the power to do something about what we know to be true.

How the Body Speaks to the Mind

Have you ever felt a knot in the pit of your stomach? Maybe you assumed it was indigestion, or that the burning in your belly had something to do with you needing to take some kind of antacid to cover up the discomfort that you’re feeling.

When there’s a knot in your stomach, there’s a reason for it. It’s not something to cover up or to try to push away or to try to get away from. Rather, it is an attempt of energy trying to rise all the way up to your consciousness that allows you to know that what you’re doing is working for you or is not working for you.

This feeling allows you to know the contract you’re about to sign is the right thing to do or not. It allows you to know if you should accept the invitation or you should decline in grace. It allows you to know that yes in fact, you do need to speak in to what you’re feeling and not let it go untapped. That wisdom rising is a deep truth and that deep truth will set you free.

Energetic Blocks Create the Knot

The reason you feel a knot in your stomach is because there isn’t enough circuitry, or energetic connectivity in your system in place for that energy or truth to rise up and make it all the way to your awareness. Instead, it hits upon a wall in your gut and the energy starts to build. That building of the wall is what we perceive as the knot in the stomach.

The lack of circuitry which creates the knot may be something that started many years ago perhaps as early as three years old. Something as old as that can start a pattern in your life and keeps you not accessing this deep truth.

For example, imagine you’re three years old, exploring your independence and you want to run across the street to play with the kids and the bright, shiny objects. You step into the street to get over to them, and suddenly your mom screams from the front porch and you get in trouble for accessing your independence for exploring your own individual personhood. In that moment, something gets registered in the subconscious level that says every time you start to step into your own personhood, your own individuality, you’re likely to get in trouble.

This information is recorded at the subconscious level and so from then on, every time you begin to step into such things, you abort the mission. You step aside or shut down, because subconsciously you don’t want to get in trouble again.

It’s hard to believe that 30 years later something like that can be having such an impact in our lives. However, if we never built the circuitry for it to be safe, then the subconscious whose job it is to keep us safe will automatically assume uncharted territory and stay behind so the circuits never get built to move that deep desire all the way up there. We end up with a knot in our stomach because energy is blocked there and it is no longer flowing.

How to Dissolve the Knot

To dissolve the knot, we must learn to let that energy flow again. We have to bring our attention to the knot and squeeze it back and let it know that contact has been made and that the mind is finally paying attention to the deep wisdom the body is attempting to reveal. When the mind and the knotted area come together, squeeze that place and take a breath up through the central channel of your body. In that moment, what begins to happen is the energy begins to break free that was once knotted up.

As you do, bring your attention to your core, this time saying, “I’m having it all and this time, I’m not going to sidestep my personal power. This time I’m going to let the adventure of life run through me instead of bypass me. This time I’m going to allow myself to be free.”

This is the focus of the mind while you’re doing this breath up and down through the central channel and what happens is, the energy begins to build a circuitry. The nervous system begins to support what the energy is doing.

By doing this, you begin to build the circuits that never got built, even 30 years ago. As we build that circuitry, our deep wisdom, our deep power, starts to rise. With it comes all the fears and concerns and hesitations we’ve built up for those 30 years and they too are just set free.

This is what we do with The Energy Codes coursework I teach at the Morter Institute and it is why people are changing their lives all the time, everyday. Simply by leaning in to the very parts of their own system instead of trying to push them away or take something such as a medicine to cover up a signal that the deep wisdom is trying to reveal to the mind. As they do this, they begin to live from the Soulful Self rather than letting the mind, and the Protective Self rule their life. When the Soulful Self is leading the way, we begin to live our lives guided by our Truth and deepest wisdom.

 

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Feeling Fractured: How to Heal Guilt & Shame

By Dr. Sue Morter

We are born whole, free and absolutely perfect. Yet oftentimes, during the course of our lives, we get shut down in that natural process.

Imagine when you were a toddler, expressing yourself with creativity and love while doing what comes naturally through curiosity and exploration, such as singing loudly or shrieking in pure joy. Then, because you happened to be in a place where behavior such as this is deemed inappropriate (such as a church service or public location), a parent or adult steps in and scolds you. Confused by this reaction, you begin to learn that being your authentic self will get you in trouble and so you begin to shut down that part of yourself. You shove that joyful part of yourself to the side, questioning:

“If I’m not supposed to be who I am naturally and authentically, then who am I supposed to be being? Who am I supposed to be, if I’m not supposed to be me?”

It’s in these moments of early childhood that we learn to compartmentalize our authentic self, shoving it away or hiding who we truly are. We then begin to build a subconscious, false identity in the hidden or fractured parts of our true being.
Feeling our natural, authentic part of ourself that isn’t wanted or accepted, results in a feeling of shame which can bring traits such as defensiveness, procrastination, distraction, and denial. When we feel ashamed, we believe there is something inherently wrong with us so we begin to hide. We become afraid to step forward and instead, seek to protect this fractured part of ourselves that was rejected by someone else.

This guilt and shame happens to many of us from an early age and can build up over time affecting our whole lives. In fact, according to Dr. Winch, Author of the book, Emotional First Aid: Healing Rejection, Guilt, Failure, and other Everyday Hurts, “unresolved and excessive guilt interferes with cognitive functioning, concentration, and daily tasks.”

So what do we do to deal with this early pattern of guilt and shame, and how do we prevent causing this type of feeling in our children as they navigate their way through society?

How to Stop the Cycle of Guilt & Shame
We must be mindful when we’re raising our own children, so as not to pass down the same way of being that perhaps we were raised with, simply because our parents didn’t know to make these distinctions. One of the ways that we can help our children not internalize feelings of guilt is to continue to guide them and steer them, yet be mindful to always separate any “negative” action from the identity of the child.

When an action occurs that needs correcting, first reassure the child they are perfect, whole and loving, and that you appreciate and understand why they are so curious. Then, continue by explaining why that particular action is not safe to do rather than simply yelling, “Don’t do that. It’s going to hurt you!”

Yelling in this way creates an imprint where the child doesn’t separate the action they’re performing, with the identity of who they actually are. When we’re mindful and can separate the action from the identity of the child, they won’t grow up with an inherent idea there is some part of themselves to be ashamed of and try to hide it from whoever might be looking.

When we are operating from a place of hiding, we operate from only a part of our “whole” self, and when we do that, we don’t show up in life the way that we could. We don’t show up full-heartedly because it’s intimidating and we’re afraid of getting hurt again. This fractured feeling affects the way we are in our relationships and to compensate, we tend to either over-give, or remove ourselves from the circumstances that would leave us feeling vulnerable.

This only increases our sense of guilt because we’re not delivering in life to our full capacity, and we know it, which creates this guilt and shame combination of a confluence of energies that are dictating our expression in life and limiting our personal experience of fulfillment, love, and happiness.

Other Reasons we Would Have Guilt & Shame
Not all guilt and shame comes from feelings we had as a child. There are many other forms of the impetus of shame or guilt in our culture. Let’s take body shame for example.

As a society, we are incredibly externally oriented with ideas of body image and what we should look like as people in our culture. If someone is shaped differently than how Hollywood portrays we should look, it automatically starts to establish this: “I am lesser than,” or, “I am not that.” Shame starts to come into the picture as a vibrational frequency within the system, again, causing us to withhold our authentic self and separating ourselves from society.

All of these ideas of unworthiness come because we’re externally orienting our focus; we’re measuring something to the outside world. The irony of this is the outside world is actually a reflection of our own full acceptance and our own consciousness.
If we don’t accept ourselves, we tend to find ourselves in all kinds of circumstances that are not accepting of us. By constantly surrounding ourselves with people who are judgmental or perhaps even interpreting their actions as judgmental, we see these situations as a validation to the illusion that we’re “not enough” or that we are something to be ashamed of and feel guilty about.

Patterns of Guilt
Sometimes individuals who engage in acts they know they shouldn’t be doing – lying, stealing, trying to act better than who they think they are – will further impact these layers of guilt and shame cultivating inside this energy system. To try to outrun that particular vibrational frequency in their system, they tend to do those things even more, or they get better at doing them so they don’t get caught or don’t get seen, never realizing it is the guilt they are trying to hide from.

The interesting thing about guilt and shame is that people who are caught in those patterns, it is easy to brush those feelings aside and the individual remains unaware they’re plagued with such conditions.

This is actually one of the greatest causes of dysfunction in life, relationships and even with someone’s health, because it elicits a defense response in the body that constantly has them trying to outrun or outsmart the fear that they’re feeling because of guilt and shame.

Living this way, we constantly live with a fear that someone’s going to discover the truth of who we are, because we can’t believe the truth of who we are is actually based in goodness.

The truth is, underneath every layer that we have piled on top that is causing so much pain, there is a flowing, generous, full, abundant, whole, and healthy being. We just have to learn how to get to that version of ourselves so that we can begin to heal ways of being and begin to sense and feel a real sense of self that we’ve never had since we started pocketing portions of ourselves from an early age.

Solution
If there is dysfunction in these ways, the invitation is to sit back and come close to yourself in a quiet moment (perhaps when you’re falling asleep at night), and start to breathe into your heart. Breathe slowly up and down the central channel of your body and ask yourself, “Is there anywhere in the body that starts to become activated or aggravated when I even entertain the idea that I could be harboring shame? That I could be really outrunning a sense of guilt that I’m carrying?” Lying in bed, intimately and sincerely and privately ask the question within the sanctum of your own skin.

When you begin to allow that feeling of vulnerability to be felt in the mind and body as you breathe up and down your body, there may be an area that jumps out – a lump in your throat, a knot in your chest or stomach, or tightness across your heart space. In those moments, the body is trying to reveal to the mind something’s not quite flowing here in the smooth and fluid way it’s intended to. Something’s being hidden. Something’s short circuited. Something’s being blocked. These areas are almost always revealing those fractured parts of your Self you hid away from childhood when you believed you were bad, or not “good enough,” and so you continue to hide to this day.

Squeeze the area that gets your attention. Let it know that your loving, tender presence has come into contact with a part of you and is ready to let it out of hiding and into a more mature expression, safely, conscientiously, intimately and gradually. Ultimately, you will begin to have a greater sense of Self. You’ll find yourself being able to speak in situations you used to be too afraid to do so and allow your true authentic self to shine.

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Get Busy Being Still

Get Busy Being Still… and be still while you’re busy.

When you still yourself from the turbulence that the mind creates, you have an opportunity to be present, to be Here.

We have to build a sensation at the protective personality level that knows there is more to the picture. We can dissolve more and more of that protective personality each time we sit and meditate. I recommend that you do some kind of meditation every day. We can then begin to develop some mastery about staying centered, staying in the awareness of the truth and the stillness within.

In the quiet space at the core, while we look out at the world, hear the sounds and see the activities, we can insist that it happens through a filter of okay-ness:

I Am the One. I Am the One who gets to have the various parts of me come together in one synchronized reality…

Part of me wants to meditate.
Part of me thinks I can’t.
Part of me wants to do this creative project. Another part of me doesn’t believe it’s possible.
Part of me wants this.
Part of me wants that…

We can stop that by saying,

I Am the One. I am the One to bring these parts together.

The way that we get to do that is to find the common denominator place where all the “parts” meet. That place is here, in the stillness.

All of those “parts” speak this language. They all beg for this language, because this language–this moment–represents all of “Who I Am.” And every one of those parts is interested in the whole.

This is how we do it, one day at a time. (Maybe twice a day.)  😉

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Resistance is Energy

The presence of resistance to an experience or circumstance outside our control represents an invitation to reveal aspects of ourselves we have not yet been open to. We miss this invitation almost every time.

Everything is energy. I have said that before, and I will say it another thousand times. Everything is energy. When we come from this perspective – that our experiences are energy, and that life and everything in it is energy – we get to step into a more masterful place sooner rather than later.

Some energies are anchoring, and some are expansive. You need both in order to integrate your whole soulful self into this body, and to live this life fully in the way it is intended.

We need it all: expansion and anchoring; growth and integration. We need to evolve, and we need to sit down and be fully where we are in the body and in the moment.

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Soulful Space

Knowing that “There is only One thing happening here and it is Good” is not about by-passing reality by any means. Being and operating from the heart space, from a soulful space, and looking out through that lens is the surest way to hold this transcendent perspective.

From a survivor perspective, we can name countless reasons to believe that it is NOT all good. With gun violence, injustice, abuse, poverty – you name it – we can certainly build a case that it doesn’t look so good. And here is where we can take a “time out” in our thinking and remember that we are more than just flesh and bone. We are more than just surviving, instinct-based individuals. We are creative-source energy in a body. We are God-source energy in a body. While that is a lofty statement, it happens to be the truth.

So what does that mean and how does that apply in the real world? We have come to this real world, to this dimension, for a great exercise program. Nothing is happening that is not a direct match for what we are here to realize. When really big things are happening, it is because we are big beings who have taken on a project for the purpose of realizing what we are. With full acceptance of all the energies we experience in all circumstances (including grief, pain, anger, despair, illness, or anything else), we can simultaneously embody a different vibrational frequency by choosing to BRING the Love, bring the compassion, bring the understanding. In doing so, we change the world, starting right where we stand.

When pure spirit being comes into the physical dimension, there is friction. That friction shows up as the challenges in the news, in our family life, in our health. In whatever way we experience these things, each is also an opportunity to experience ourselves in a way that we have not before. Each is an opportunity for us to reach inside and access something we didn’t even know we had.

–Dr. Sue